Healing in Complex Trauma

I had the privilege of working with Rev. Denise on a memorial service for a member whose son tragically took his life. She handled this painful subject beautifully. At the mother’s request, she used the memorial as a way to normalize depression, anxiety, mental illness and ADHD, raising awareness among those who attended the service about how we might support those who suffer from suicidal thoughts and the families of those who have lost loved ones to suicide. Rev. Denise spent many hours co-authoring the eulogy with his mother, getting to know the whole of who her son was so we could celebrate his tender heart, the bright moments in his life and the joy he brought to his loved ones.

Bill, Worship Team, UU Church of Washington County

Wonderful Celebrant

Pastor Denise was wonderful to work with for creating and leading my grandfather’s funeral service. She was compassionate in demeanor, flexible and available with her time, and intensely interested in crafting the ceremony that the he would have wished for. To start, Denise thoroughly interviewed me about his life story and beliefs. From there, she went above and beyond to craft a service that not only included a traditional recounting of his life, but also readings, tributes and music that uniquely fit his philosophies, values and experiences. On the day of the service, Denise was punctual and worked well with the funeral home. The service itself was well-organized and eloquently delivered. Despite only a brief time with our family, Pastor Denise felt like a close friend by the time the service was over. I am grateful that she was available for us in our time of need.

Mark F., Milwaukee, WI

Considering that the minister, Rev. Denise had never met John and his family. She spent time with the family members consoling and counseling them in the days before the funeral. On such limited exposure and in such a short time, she put together a great reflection on John’s life, both serious and humorous, and a really thoughtful presentation. She is an excellent representative of your faith and organization.

Kathleen B, Wauwatosa, WI

My mother died by suicide. Reverend Denise reached out and offered her support to me, which I gratefully accepted. I could not have done this myself. I could not have been creative or decisive in the midst of my shock, fear, and anger in the days and weeks following my mother’s suicide. Reverend Denise composed a service in my mother’s memory that my mother’s life justice and helped us all say good-bye when there hadn’t been any other opportunity to do so. It helped pull out the weeds of self-doubt and anger that so frequently follow the suicide of a loved one.

Jennifer, Wauwatosa, WI